Christian Sex: How Often Should Married Couples Do It?


"How often should we be having sex as a married couple?" If you are asking this question, you may likely be in a dry season.

The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 7, “Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” It is clear that we are more open to temptation as husbands and wives when we are abstaining for too long in our marital intimacy. This is likely why pornography and even adultery are sneaking into even the most seemingly robust Christian marriages.

The interesting thing is that God has almost created a "timer" for sexual intimacy. For women who are not aware, men actually become physically uncomfortable with the seminal volume (similar to a breastfeeding mother that has waited too long to to pump/feed) after about three days without release. It's like his own reminder that you need to get back the marriage bed!

In any case, it is probably best to plan to be intimate at least once a day, and, as occasions arise, abstain a day or two. Of course, some couples will be having sex at more frequency than that, but it seems to be a good general rule to follow. For days when intercourse is not possible or uncomfortable (illness, menstrual cycle, separated by distance, etc.), bring romance in other ways - massage, kisses, etc. 

Honor God. Honor your spouse. Enjoy the gift!